Yes We Can

Life always brings about answers to one's doubts in such peculiar way. Same thing happened with me. I started doubting my capabilities of performing duties both in personal and professional sense.

 Recently, I issued a book for Advaya entitled, "Yes We Can", I read it to Advaya and as soon as I had finished the book, a kind of fresh smile was on my face and in a way I was being answered by life to all my foolish doubts. Yes , Now I consider them foolish. The story is about three friends, Kangaroo, Mouse and Duck. They were playing and while playing Kangaroo asked Duck," I know something you can't do.you can't jump over a big big log." Duck felt offended and said, "Yes I can."Duck tried as hard as she could, but little Duck can't do it." Other animals looking at the failure of Duck were laughing, even the  Mouse enjoyed Duck's falling. Duck was upset and said to Mouse,"I  know something you can't do. you can't float on a puddle." The Mouse also took it personally and said,"yes I can." Mouse also tried hard to float on the puddle but little mouse isn't really made for floating. Little Mouse came out of the water disappointed.and Kangaroo made fun of him. Little Mouse asked Kangaroo," Don't laugh at me , I know something you can't do. you can't catch catch your own tail." Kangaroo like others said, "Yes I can." Roo tried as hard as he could to catch his own tail but his tail would not be caught. Mouse and Duck laughed and laughed as Roo ran around in circles. All disappointed after the failures sat sadly.  Roo's mother came over and asked for the reasons for their disappointments. She answered, "No body likes to be laughed at.""Why don't you show each other what you can do?" said the the mother. kangaroo cried." I can jump over a big big log!'" The Roo did it. Every body appreciated his good jumping skills. then the Duck said, I can float on a puddle and she did it and others agreed. And the Mouse caught his own tail and Duck and Roo thought his tail-catching was the best they had ever seen. they all were really really happy on their success and the cried all together, "Yes We Can."

 With such a small story , life has made me understand that there are things which I can really do well. In life, most of the times, one is swayed away by the expectation of others, and  do as hard as one can do but, could not taste the fruit of success and is frustrated at the end of the day. I learnt the lesson and would always try to communicate this to my son as he will be stepping into a world more challenging and demanding than  we are in .

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Anupma

12/11/2010

I sometimes am amazed to see the ways of life. A moment you are sombre and gloomy another you are gay and jovial, at a moment you are ready to renounce the world considering it futile and, another you are ready to embrace it like a beloved. Isn't it amazing?I am little bit relaxed today, Advaya is having his afternoon nap and my husband has gone to a conference for the entire day. I really like to spend time with my self. I don't mean to say I don't like to be with others. No not at all I am a public person, I like to be in the midst of people. But I am very much disturbed when I really don't have my own little time .
Sitting on the sofa and watching Anjana and Anjani, didn't like it much so from there, the mind flies back to the memories of school days, the year I guess was  1996, when, I participated in the Miss St, Anthony's Convent competition and to be very precise,  to the the final question round. All my dear friends might also remember the event, I was asked ,"Who do you think is a better woman, one who goes out and earn money or the one who takes care of the household." my answer was kind of naive,I answered, "For me the woman ,who has equal control over the inside world and the outside world would be a better woman." I didn't realize the question asked at the age of 14-15 could possibly be the most essential question of the life to come. It is Indeed true. I lost the competition then by answering so, as was supposed to choose one between the two options.At that time I could not choose one and the dilemma continues at the age of I am not able to choose one over the other.
And undoubtedly, all women who happily choose one over the other, are women of great conviction.I really appreciate their decision.
Will be back.
Love to all....

Date 12/10/2010 Philadelphia PA USA

Dear Friends, I have been feeling strange for couple of days . I am not sure how would I be able to put it down in words. The most intricate and enigmatic affair in ones life is his/her  emotional state of mind and to express them is even harder task. As I have started this blog to communicate my mind and share it with my friends and also to get their experiences .
I toil hard everyday to get things done in my household, even then there are things every day which are not addressed or neglected. During the day, my mind is occupied with some or the other thing if I am cooking, my mind is with Advaya {my son}, When I am feeding him, my mind is in hurry of something may be doing the dishes. When I doing the dishes, my mind wants to run to TV. This dissociation with the work of mind, takes out the efficiency in me and which is a frustrating thing .Anyways, when I am almost done with all the work that I have designated my self in the span of one day, officially I am done for the day,I have nothing in my list to do and still have time, my mind doesn't want to take rest, it is still running here and there, I am not able to convince him that I have done every thing needed now I can do whatever I like. It does not listen to me at all. and then I sit in front of computer and kill my time watching things I really don't want to. Basically, I am in hurry of something, or I want to finish something which I am not able to do or may be not efficiently doing it. There is something wrong because even when I am sleeping my mind is not at rest .As a result when I get up in the morning I am not fresh ,I am  irritated and tired although I have been sleeping for 7-8 hours.
I believe I have lost the sync or may be something else. Its Important to give vent to my feelings. As we don't have much friends here, writing is the easiest ,the most non-bothering and the most refreshing, act for me .So here I am .Hope to hear from you.
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