Few days, I am thoughtful and pensive that I can not stop myself writing. Today is one such day. I remember the definition of Maciver and Page " Society is the web of social relations. And its always changing. " There are definitely complications involved. You may reduce it to a certain level if you establish a relationship with a little mindfulness and Here is my list of people, one should stay away.
1. Who only sees relationships in terms of Transactions:
One stays in the relationship, in lieu of what they can get, how can they win the situation, how can they influence the decision, and judge the persons and the results. The relationship seems to dim or die as soon as transactions stop happening. Everything opposite of this happens in a relational relationship.
Few examples such transactional relations in society, one invites friends to dinner, so that a) they will invite you back b) one sees a future event coming when they can seek favor c) one is expanding the network so that they can count on them in future. You help others so that a) you can boast about it in a social circle. b) you are seeing a clear link of this help to a future benefit. c) you can take similar or better favors in future. I would stop here as you all might have a clear idea now what I am talking about. There are no much issues where both the parties involved, follow the same ideology. They can freely transact and will remain happy. This is applicable for those who are ready to offer help and support but not ready for unwanted, frequent, unnecessary transactions.
Having said that, I do not deny that all relationships in the world would involve some kind of give and take. But, the intention, approach, motivation and attitude should be different.
2. Who only talks about others:
People get pseudo-pleasure of talking about good and bad of other people in a social circle. If they talk good about someone, they wish to make you feel bad about the situation or wanting to create an unwanted moral pressure onto you. A big no should be shown to those who talks bad about others. Remember, they would do the same thing when in other circles about you. And always remind yourself to be as objective as you can when talking about a person or an event involving people.
3. Who are not mentally compatible with you
I am telling you, its a complete waste of time and energy. Others might remind you that it is important to be having connections with everyone. Networking is a good way to conduct in a society. Come on, you do not need to. One should have few friends, in an interaction you should both feel good . You must not share similar ideologies, but you must share a similar critical mindset, you must respect the difference in opinion, but the sensibility and the understanding should be the same. We go through with so much of stress and all types of problems in daily lives that we do not need another venue to invite unwanted problems.
1. Who only sees relationships in terms of Transactions:
One stays in the relationship, in lieu of what they can get, how can they win the situation, how can they influence the decision, and judge the persons and the results. The relationship seems to dim or die as soon as transactions stop happening. Everything opposite of this happens in a relational relationship.
Few examples such transactional relations in society, one invites friends to dinner, so that a) they will invite you back b) one sees a future event coming when they can seek favor c) one is expanding the network so that they can count on them in future. You help others so that a) you can boast about it in a social circle. b) you are seeing a clear link of this help to a future benefit. c) you can take similar or better favors in future. I would stop here as you all might have a clear idea now what I am talking about. There are no much issues where both the parties involved, follow the same ideology. They can freely transact and will remain happy. This is applicable for those who are ready to offer help and support but not ready for unwanted, frequent, unnecessary transactions.
Having said that, I do not deny that all relationships in the world would involve some kind of give and take. But, the intention, approach, motivation and attitude should be different.
2. Who only talks about others:
People get pseudo-pleasure of talking about good and bad of other people in a social circle. If they talk good about someone, they wish to make you feel bad about the situation or wanting to create an unwanted moral pressure onto you. A big no should be shown to those who talks bad about others. Remember, they would do the same thing when in other circles about you. And always remind yourself to be as objective as you can when talking about a person or an event involving people.
3. Who are not mentally compatible with you
I am telling you, its a complete waste of time and energy. Others might remind you that it is important to be having connections with everyone. Networking is a good way to conduct in a society. Come on, you do not need to. One should have few friends, in an interaction you should both feel good . You must not share similar ideologies, but you must share a similar critical mindset, you must respect the difference in opinion, but the sensibility and the understanding should be the same. We go through with so much of stress and all types of problems in daily lives that we do not need another venue to invite unwanted problems.
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